Creating a long distance relationship bucket list

Have you heard of the term ‘bucketlist’? It basically means creating a list of things to do before you “kick the bucket” (or, to put it more bluntly, die). Everyone’s list is different. It may include extravagant things and big dreams and goals in life (like skydiving or going on a holiday to a faraway country).
I recently made a bucket list with Joseph❤️ These are the few things we have.

1.Go to Italy
We both love Italy and it's architecture and the food especially:D Were gonna have a jar that we fill with spare money and once we hit our goal, were gonna make the big trip.
2.Have a horror movie night
This is a MUST on my ‘boyfriend bucketlist’! Complete with snacks, lots of cuddles, cosiness, pillows, blankets and my boyfriend to hide behind when I get scared. Not only is this idea cute (especially on those cold, rainy nights) but the only expense is for the food, so it’s cheap and thrilling!
3. Go to a fair
This fun idea is PERFECT for big kids! Imagine kissing on top of the Ferris wheel, taking cute ‘couple’ photos with the vibrant colours of the funfair as a backdrop, and indulging on funfair snacks like candyfloss, toffee apples and popcorn! Yum.
4. Spend the day on the beach
On a warm summer day, I’d love nothing more than to spend the whole day at the beach with my boyfriend. Long romantic walks along the sand, watching the sunset together while listening to the sound of the waves.
5. Go to Build-a-Bear
I’ve always had a soft spot for Build-a-Bear workshops and similar bear-making stores. This is something I used to do as a kid. In the past I’ve made various cute teddies, a unicorn, a cat and a Westie dog, but I would LOVE to go to Buld-a-Bear with my boyfriend and have us build each other a bear. There’s nothing better than having a teddy brought (or made!!) by your boyfriend to cuddle on those lonely nights when you’re miles apart from one another.

These are just some, We both have around 200 things on our bucket list. I know, it's ridiculous... But at least we have something to look forward to when we see each other again:)

The Honey Moon Period

The Honey Moon Period

We’ve all heard it. "Oh, you guys don’t fight? You’re happy and in love? You’re still in your honeymoon period. Just wait." Or something to that effect. Those statements do have some truth to it. Usually, the beginning of a relationship is about getting to know your significant other more and during that time period you are merely enjoying each other’s company without the bickering and without the realization of their daily (bad) habits. That is an over-generalization of the honeymoon period, but you get the picture. A lot of people believe that once the honeymoon period is over is when the "real" relationship begins (meaning it was easy peasy at first, and then takes a little more work). This can last a few months for new relationships, or a couple of years for newlyweds. As for LDRs? I’m here to tell you that the honeymoon period is ALL KINDS OF WACK...

I am going to use my experience in an LDR as a point of reference for this post. What does that mean? That means that as soon as we began dating, we had to transition into a long-distance relationship while I was still in undergrad and he began law school. Our honeymoon period experience may be similar to those of you who began your relationship in an LDR as well.
1. The LDR honeymoon period is kind of opposite of the normal honeymoon period.What do I mean by this? Remember how I said a relationship is "easy peasy at first" during the honeymoon period, "and then takes a little more work" once that period ends? Well, it’s opposite day for us LDRers! The beginning of LDRs are TOUGH. With the whole trying to get to know each other better whilst trying to figure out each other’s schedules in order to actually schedule your phone calls but still trying not to bawl your eyes out everyday because other couples are being all couple-y and you’re just depressed because you can’t see, feel, hear, smell your S.O. whenever you want like they can… Not to freak any new LDRers out or anything, but that is pretty much the first… year (?) of your LDR. Once you make it through the first year (or however long it takes you and your S.O. to establish a routine and get you both busy enough to not continually focus on the fact that you’re long distance), the distance gets easier. The relationship may or may not get easier, but the distance does.

2. LDR honeymoon periods last longer. Normally a honeymoon period would last until you get to learn all the quirks and habits of your S.O. (messy rooms, doesn’t pick up after themselves) and until you become comfortable around your S.O. (going without deodorant, peeing in front of each other). Since being in a LDR means you may only see your significant other four times a year, twice a year, once a year… You see where I’m going? What may be a three month or six month honeymoon period for a non-LDR couple may be a one year, two year, three year honeymoon phase for an LDR couple.

3. Your relationship undergoes a sort of arrested development in comparison to other relationships. Because our relationships may have a longer honeymoon phase than non-LDRs and because we basically get three honeymoon phases, our relationships may not progress at the rate of other relationships. I am by no way saying that LDRs don’t progress while in long distance (because I can very much argue that LDRs create a much stronger relationship when successful), I am just saying that you may feel like you are starting all over again once the long distance portion of your relationship ends. Therefore, you may not feel like your were in a real relationship during your LDR. To those of you who think this way, I say: "You were damn straight in a real relationship! It may have been the realest one you’ve been in yet!" So, although your relationship timeline may not be similar to the relationship timeline of your friends who do not undergo long distance (I’m talking about those wedding bells I hear from every which direction), be confident that the extremely strong and sturdy foundation you’ve built with your LDR S.O. is all you need to progress along that timeline.

As I mentioned before, my interpretation of LDR honeymoon periods is solely based on my personal experience in an LDR. This may not be what you will/do experience, but hopefully it will give newly-formed LDRs an insight into their future honeymoon phases.

How To Keep In Touch With Long Distant Friends

How To Keep In Touch With Long Distant Friends

Because of the internet and social media, it is easier than ever to keep in touch with friends, even if they live on the opposite end of the Earth.  But many forms of social media like Facebook simply make it easier to keep tabs on your friends rather than interact with them.
How many times has a friend told you something, and you replied, “I know, I saw it on your Facebook!”  We get a lot of our news through Facebook without having to go out for coffee and spending time together.  And there’s no shame in sharing news that way, nor does it mean you aren’t good friends if you learn about big news through the news feed.  Facebook is a tool and it is an extremely helpful one for those who live far away from friends and family.

Keep a blog

I think this idea is actually not bad... It's a great way to connect with your friends by sharing some cool ideas about whatever the hell it is you like. Simple as that.

Send snail mail  

This is harder than it sounds.  Many of us are not in the habit of sending letters or cards, so it is hard to remember to do so.
If you use a calendar or planner, it is helpful to write reminders of birthdays and holidays and give yourself plenty of notice to send mail.
There is something exciting about getting mail that isn’t bills or junk, so after a few pleasant surprises you should have no difficulty remembering.

Send care packages

This is a little different from cards or letters, although it can include them. Care packages are a great way to share your new experiences with friends; you could post about a great new candy you discovered, but it is more fun getting to share some  with those you left behind.

Watch a show together

It doesn’t necessarily have to be at the same time, but if you are getting all your news from Facebook, this gives you more to talk about when you do chat.
When you first move and don’t know anyone, trust me, you’ll want to talk to SOMEONE about the newest episode of a show you really like, and it serves as a weekly reminder to chat.

Start a online book club

In a similar vein, having a monthly book club with your friends can be a lot of fun.
Some friends of mine that I volunteered with suggested we pick a book a month and Skype when we’re ready to discuss the book together.
It may make it easier to agree on a book if you pick a genre, and either make a list of books each member has always wanted to read and pick randomly, or pick a newly released title in that genre.  Even if you hate the book, you’ll probably have a lot to say about it.


Maybe you’re great at remembering to call or send cards, but if you find yourself slipping, these are just a few ideas to keep your friendships strong.

3 Most Frequently Asked Questions From Others

  3 Most Frequently Asked Questions From Others

The truth is, most people can’t fathom why you’d willingly participate in a relationship that requires you to trade a Friday-night dinner date for a Friday-night Skype date. Not to worry though—you aren’t alone. According to Statistic Brain, 14 million people defined their relationships as long-distance in 2012.
Clearly, LDRs are becoming more common. Still, you’d better get prepped to answer a boatload of queries one you announce you’re in one. Here are five questions you’ll definitely get asked (and how to answer them):

1. Why would you ever get into a long-distance relationship?
Your friends may never understand your decision to get into a LDR, which is why this question will probably pepper every conversation they ever have with you. The answer is usually pretty simple: You’re in a long-distance relationship because you are in love, and he/she happens to live in another city. Long-distance dating isn’t for the faint of heart, so if love weren’t on the table, you likely wouldn’t bother with all those flier miles and hotel bills. Duh.
2. When are you going to move to the same place?
Once your friends discover you’re in a LDR, they want to know when you plan to move to the same city, or better yet, run off in a VW van. Honestly, this topic may or may not be a discussion you and your main squeeze are having. Not every LDR will prompt an immediate relocation. Address the question by being honest. Let them know where you’re at with your partner and that you’re in a happy and healthy place, despite the distance. Don’t feel pressured to blurt out a moving date just to get them off your back. If you don’t have plans to move right away, just say so.
3. Aren’t you afraid your boyfriend/girlfriend is cheating?
Listen, any partner could cheat; it doesn’t matter if they’re a thousand miles away or in the same city. Distance has nothing to do with cheating. Long-distance requires a higher level of trust, sure—but that just means that you and your partner have to ramp up communication and honesty. Which are great things to have in any relationship