This Summer..

This summer; I'm officially booked. Lots of things are going to be happening.
#1, I'm either moving back to Reno where I am originally from. Or I'm moving up in Nor Cal. Depending on what my parents decide... I'd rather live in Reno because that's my home town.I know every street name there, my friends and family are there, etc.

#2 Joseph is going to move to Reno to do some police action! He's going to attend Reno Police Academy to become a police officer. His dream job is to become a detective. However, to become a detective, you have to join the police force. He also wants to be part of the K-9 stuff which will be pretty cool.
So he's moving up around late July, early August. That's also another reason why I want to go back to Reno because I'd be closer to Joseph. Which in that case would just be terrific.

#3 My best friend from Texas is going to be visiting me! I haven't seen her for about a year which to me sucks major booty. She and I will be going to San Francisco (Hopefully Joseph will be here by then.) Also in Reno. I haven't made much friends in California which makes me miss all my wonderful Texas hoodlums. I haven't been able to visit them this year. So luckily my best friend can come up and visit me:)

Otherwise I can't think of anything else. Just these 3 major things. Maybe some camping & hiking? Hopefully.

I have no idea...

So literally I've been stuck in the mud when it comes to this damn blog. I want to keep my grade up so I might as well talk about something...
So my birthday is next week. And so is Joseph and I's one year anniversary. And he's been giving me hints that he might be coming here to surprise me... Who knows.
OH So yeah you know my chameleon. His name is Nigel. He's hella rad.
Help me think of something to write about Mr. Elkin!

Back Story (Continued from continued)

For the rest of the school year (April - June) We wrote 2-3 letters a day to each other. And we've kept them in secret places. For me I hid them in my fake dictionary safe (Ironically.) My birthday is in May and since I was in trouble I couldn't throw a party. Instead I insisted to go to prom with my friends(And Joseph but they didn't know) for my birthday. My parents said yes but of course my dad would have to go with me... Which is stupid...
Prom came and my dad was basically this human chastity belt. Well at least it felt like it. I arrive and all my friends were so excited that I was able to make it. We all walk in and I see Joseph. He is a complete nervous wreck. He walks up to my dad and asks if he could dance with me. (Bring on the water works:'D) And my dad notably said yes. You could see the relief on Joseph's face and the happiness.
So prom was amazing! We all enjoyed our time except when I had to leave. I came home to my brother outside saying "What a nice moon out tonight." As I turn around I see his ass which is a sight for sore eyes... Terrible way to end the night...
Couple weeks later we had a community service project coming up and I had the idea of my wonderful lady friends and I sing songs to an autism home. Joseph would play the drums whilst Daniel (Our friend) plays piano which they all sounded terrific. Our teachers agreed and Joseph and I worked together. Soon the teachers thought this whole "never talk to each other" thing was totally ignorant so they let us talk for the rest of the year.



At the end my mother insisted having Joseph and his family over at the pool. So I texted him (I received my phone back a while ago) and told him the good news. Joseph, his mother, and his 2 youngest brothers came over. It was a bit awkward but it was eventful. My parents talked to his mother and they warmed up which is one of the greatest feelings you could feel. Our "fun" time was cut due to tornado warnings and they had to go home. The 3 tornadoes were all 30 miles away form our house. Note this, this is my first time ever in Texas after living there for a year and a half dealing with tornadoes THIS CLOSE to my house. Joseph was scared for me but I told him I will be okay and if I get sucked up by the tornado, I'll be that white cow going in circles in the tornado.
After that mess we were able to hang out for the rest of the time I was there before I moved to California. Soon my parents began to like Joseph. Present day they love him (ironically one last time.)
We've been together for almost a year (One more month) and we've been doing long distance for 10 months which is crazy but he came to visit which makes things 10x easier for the both of us.
Joseph will soon be moving up to Reno to do college and attending the police academy in Reno so he can be closer  to me. And our story still continues to this day.


THE END KIND OF NOT REALLY WERE NOT DEAD.

Back Story (Continued)

My mom texted him "Call me" pretending to be me. Joseph fell for the trap and called her. Apparently my mom said sarcastically, "Did you have fun with my daughter last night?" Joseph said "Oh my god ma'am I'm so sorry!" Than my mom basically cursed him out. Around this time I was asleep... I had my neighbor friend sleeping over that night. My mom came bursting through my door, furiously shaking my phone in her hand whilst yelling at me. She also accidently kicked my friend who was sleeping on the floor. Wow... "I'm dead..." I thought to myself. I knew I was in a deep shitter at that moment. I couldn't think straight. As if that whole thing was just a blur... My friend was sent home. My mom said she would contact police and everything because Joseph was 18. She kept calling me a slut and a whore and I'm thinking to myself "Holy shit she's blind." However I couldn't blame her for not believing me for not having sex. I mean why would 2 teenagers sneak out of the house at 1 in the morning? Most teenagers; sex. Joseph had to tell his parents what happened. That day he got his hair shaved off. Same with his facial hair (sad face.) My mom contacted the school to set up a meeting the next day with his parents. Why? I don't know... My mom is just... Mom... That Monday morning was the absolute worst day for me. I hadn't eaten for about 16 hours. I was so upset because I didn't mean to put Joseph in that kind of danger. I didn't know my mom would go berserk. I felt so horrible because I didn't know I'd be in this great of trouble. Probably because I see my friends do it and get away with it. And if they do get caught, there parents just ground them.


I met Joseph's parents. His mom & dad were crying. Deep down I was confused because the only bad thing we did was just sneak out late at night. It's not like I took they're sons' god damned virginity. The meeting was basically about how I will never talk to Joseph ever again and we'll never be together because we ruined our chances. I understood that but not ever talking to him? I couldn't believe it. First impression is always important so don't fuck it up.
Tuesday I'm back at school. Everyone is asking questions because they all heard and they were worried for us. (We were like a family and we were all very close) I saw Joseph walk into a different building. Apparently they moved him away from the class because of what we did. "Oh my god why is this even happening I wish I could go back." I kept saying to myself. I didn't fully apologize to Joseph and I wasn't allowed to talk to him. So I wrote him the typical "It's okay to hate me" letter.
I gave it to my friend who gave it to him secretly. I got a letter back saying the typical " I will never hate you" letter. We were so romantic (I'm being sarcastic) But since then we would exchange letters to each other everyday but the weekends. Thanks to our friends, we made it possible.


TO BE CONTINUED MR. ELKIN?

Back story

I decided to make this blog post about the time Joseph and I met and how we got caught doing the "wrong thing." You see I was a very mischievous sophomore back in the day. And when I was going to public school, I wasn't doing to hot when it came to grades. Mostly because I didn't give 2 shits. I was getting into fights, smoking, and luckily I saved myself before I got into drugs and alcohol. I saved myself by talking to my parents about going to a charter school. (By the way I'm in Austin, TX at the time) And just out of luck, there was a private charter school down the street from my public school in a little church. "They had uniforms.... Oh fuck they have uniforms." I thought to myself. Honestly though I grew to like them more each day. Because I knew what I was going to wear everyday of the week. I had a nose piercing at the time and they don't allow facial piercing... Hah! I almost cried my eyes out.. Any who my first day at school was weird. But I liked it. The teachers forced the kids to get up and introduce themselves to me. And the first person who jumped up was Joseph. How ironic. He came up to shake my hand and introduce himself. He had a brother and a sister in the same class. There was about 24 high school students all together, all grades... So you can image everyone in their own cliques. I imaged it like that but I was wrong. Everyone got along and we were like a big family. After working for a few hours we had break time in the break room where there was a pool and ping pong table and a bunch of bean bags. "This is the best school ever" I thought to myself. Soon after a week I saw Joseph stand up and I made the most stupid remark to him. "Why the hell are you so short" I said to him.. Everyone laughed and started calling him midget and all. Soon Joseph and I started talking more and more and he finally had the courage to ask me for my number... He was so shy to ask so his friend kept giving me stupid pick up lines to piss him off and give him some balls. Clever. Later in the weeks Joseph and I decided to be stupid one night. Friday April 3rd, we thought it would be cool to sneak out at 1 in the morning and just hang out in his car and yes we both thought of the same thing. Sex. But it never happened. We both just talked about life and deep thoughts. Including confessions. (Me liking him, him liking me so on so forth) I also blame that it was around 3 in the morning and our minds were out of wack. He dropped me off home and no one suspected UNTIL mother unit saw that my shoes moved to a different spot... Like how does that even happen? Who notices anything like that? My mom took my phone, read our texts, and shit went down. We were in so much trouble. I was already grounded for flunking and now this... My mom contacted him..


TO BE CONTINUED
                                      

Creating a long distance relationship bucket list

Have you heard of the term ‘bucketlist’? It basically means creating a list of things to do before you “kick the bucket” (or, to put it more bluntly, die). Everyone’s list is different. It may include extravagant things and big dreams and goals in life (like skydiving or going on a holiday to a faraway country).
I recently made a bucket list with Joseph❤️ These are the few things we have.

1.Go to Italy
We both love Italy and it's architecture and the food especially:D Were gonna have a jar that we fill with spare money and once we hit our goal, were gonna make the big trip.
2.Have a horror movie night
This is a MUST on my ‘boyfriend bucketlist’! Complete with snacks, lots of cuddles, cosiness, pillows, blankets and my boyfriend to hide behind when I get scared. Not only is this idea cute (especially on those cold, rainy nights) but the only expense is for the food, so it’s cheap and thrilling!
3. Go to a fair
This fun idea is PERFECT for big kids! Imagine kissing on top of the Ferris wheel, taking cute ‘couple’ photos with the vibrant colours of the funfair as a backdrop, and indulging on funfair snacks like candyfloss, toffee apples and popcorn! Yum.
4. Spend the day on the beach
On a warm summer day, I’d love nothing more than to spend the whole day at the beach with my boyfriend. Long romantic walks along the sand, watching the sunset together while listening to the sound of the waves.
5. Go to Build-a-Bear
I’ve always had a soft spot for Build-a-Bear workshops and similar bear-making stores. This is something I used to do as a kid. In the past I’ve made various cute teddies, a unicorn, a cat and a Westie dog, but I would LOVE to go to Buld-a-Bear with my boyfriend and have us build each other a bear. There’s nothing better than having a teddy brought (or made!!) by your boyfriend to cuddle on those lonely nights when you’re miles apart from one another.

These are just some, We both have around 200 things on our bucket list. I know, it's ridiculous... But at least we have something to look forward to when we see each other again:)

The Honey Moon Period

The Honey Moon Period

We’ve all heard it. "Oh, you guys don’t fight? You’re happy and in love? You’re still in your honeymoon period. Just wait." Or something to that effect. Those statements do have some truth to it. Usually, the beginning of a relationship is about getting to know your significant other more and during that time period you are merely enjoying each other’s company without the bickering and without the realization of their daily (bad) habits. That is an over-generalization of the honeymoon period, but you get the picture. A lot of people believe that once the honeymoon period is over is when the "real" relationship begins (meaning it was easy peasy at first, and then takes a little more work). This can last a few months for new relationships, or a couple of years for newlyweds. As for LDRs? I’m here to tell you that the honeymoon period is ALL KINDS OF WACK...

I am going to use my experience in an LDR as a point of reference for this post. What does that mean? That means that as soon as we began dating, we had to transition into a long-distance relationship while I was still in undergrad and he began law school. Our honeymoon period experience may be similar to those of you who began your relationship in an LDR as well.
1. The LDR honeymoon period is kind of opposite of the normal honeymoon period.What do I mean by this? Remember how I said a relationship is "easy peasy at first" during the honeymoon period, "and then takes a little more work" once that period ends? Well, it’s opposite day for us LDRers! The beginning of LDRs are TOUGH. With the whole trying to get to know each other better whilst trying to figure out each other’s schedules in order to actually schedule your phone calls but still trying not to bawl your eyes out everyday because other couples are being all couple-y and you’re just depressed because you can’t see, feel, hear, smell your S.O. whenever you want like they can… Not to freak any new LDRers out or anything, but that is pretty much the first… year (?) of your LDR. Once you make it through the first year (or however long it takes you and your S.O. to establish a routine and get you both busy enough to not continually focus on the fact that you’re long distance), the distance gets easier. The relationship may or may not get easier, but the distance does.

2. LDR honeymoon periods last longer. Normally a honeymoon period would last until you get to learn all the quirks and habits of your S.O. (messy rooms, doesn’t pick up after themselves) and until you become comfortable around your S.O. (going without deodorant, peeing in front of each other). Since being in a LDR means you may only see your significant other four times a year, twice a year, once a year… You see where I’m going? What may be a three month or six month honeymoon period for a non-LDR couple may be a one year, two year, three year honeymoon phase for an LDR couple.

3. Your relationship undergoes a sort of arrested development in comparison to other relationships. Because our relationships may have a longer honeymoon phase than non-LDRs and because we basically get three honeymoon phases, our relationships may not progress at the rate of other relationships. I am by no way saying that LDRs don’t progress while in long distance (because I can very much argue that LDRs create a much stronger relationship when successful), I am just saying that you may feel like you are starting all over again once the long distance portion of your relationship ends. Therefore, you may not feel like your were in a real relationship during your LDR. To those of you who think this way, I say: "You were damn straight in a real relationship! It may have been the realest one you’ve been in yet!" So, although your relationship timeline may not be similar to the relationship timeline of your friends who do not undergo long distance (I’m talking about those wedding bells I hear from every which direction), be confident that the extremely strong and sturdy foundation you’ve built with your LDR S.O. is all you need to progress along that timeline.

As I mentioned before, my interpretation of LDR honeymoon periods is solely based on my personal experience in an LDR. This may not be what you will/do experience, but hopefully it will give newly-formed LDRs an insight into their future honeymoon phases.